While I am focusing on something else, I neglected something else.
Lesson learnt... Never never focus on just one thing...
And what I thought I'm good at, end up is the one that actually pull me down...
Fear is self-impose, meaning it doesn't exist. I create it, I can destroy it too. It's an intangible.
Tuesday, March 25, 2014
Thursday, March 20, 2014
When People Tell You That You Can’t, You Just Smile And Say, ‘Watch Me’
For some people, it is just safer to do nothing rather than trying something new.
They don't want to rock the boat, they only want to be in their own comfort zones.
It is much easier to make excuses not to do something big and overwhelming than to simply put one foot in front of the other and start chipping away at the not-so-glam work of marking your dreams come true.
Why do people do that? It's probably a fear of making a mistake.
Fear of failure.
Fear of embarrassment.
Maybe they are fearful of changes.
I think it's a totally normal and healthy human response to feel all of these things when embarking into the unknown, when taking risks.
But if you recognize that this fear is just a passing emotion that doesn't necessarily have to stop you from making any moves, then you might be able to set yourself free. Miracles are just a shift in perception from fearing to love.
"CAN'T" is an ugly work, it should be banished from our vocabulary.
Mindset is everything, by simply making some minor adjustments to how we think and by removing the negative thoughts we tell ourselves that leave us in place ruled by fear, we can make great strides towards our desired end result. Anything is possible if you have a clear vision and are willing to do the work.
They don't want to rock the boat, they only want to be in their own comfort zones.
It is much easier to make excuses not to do something big and overwhelming than to simply put one foot in front of the other and start chipping away at the not-so-glam work of marking your dreams come true.
Why do people do that? It's probably a fear of making a mistake.
Fear of failure.
Fear of embarrassment.
Maybe they are fearful of changes.
I think it's a totally normal and healthy human response to feel all of these things when embarking into the unknown, when taking risks.
But if you recognize that this fear is just a passing emotion that doesn't necessarily have to stop you from making any moves, then you might be able to set yourself free. Miracles are just a shift in perception from fearing to love.
"CAN'T" is an ugly work, it should be banished from our vocabulary.
Mindset is everything, by simply making some minor adjustments to how we think and by removing the negative thoughts we tell ourselves that leave us in place ruled by fear, we can make great strides towards our desired end result. Anything is possible if you have a clear vision and are willing to do the work.
Wednesday, March 19, 2014
Secrets about flying
Secrets that many of you all don't know about flying...
When a plane is landing at night, they dim the interior lights just in case you need to evacuate upon landing, and since your eyes are already adjusted to the darkness, you will be able to see better once outside the plane.
The aircraft lavatories are able to unlock from the outside by just using a pen or even a coin. There is usually a lock mechanism concealed behind the no smoking badge on the door. Just lift the flap up and slide the bolt to unlock it.
In the cockpit, there are always at least 2 pilots at a time flying the aircraft. Both pilots are served different meals and cannot share the food just in case of food poisoning.
If you ever drink any water on the aircraft that did not come from a bottle, well congratulation! The reason being the ports to purge lavatory shit and refill the aircraft with portable water are within feet from each other and sometimes serviced all at once by the same person. So...
Landings to a lot of pilots are nothing more than a controlled crashes.
Accident occurs the most during take-off and landing...
Among the two pilots that are on duty, at least one of them are sleeping during flight and most often, when that one pilot that are sleeping woke up, he/she find that their partner are asleep too. It's all thanks to the auto-pilot.
Turning off the electronics on a plane is totally bullshit. It won't really affect the aircraft nor bring the whole aircraft down. What it does is that it is freaking annoying to the pilots due to the interference sound.
All of the goodies that are sold on the aircraft can be purchased on the internet for WAY less money.
Those clean blankets and pillows? Yes those are just being refolded and stuffed back in the bins between the flights, everyone will thought its new. Oh, even the headphones that come wrapped up nicely aren't new.
If during a flight, when all engines fail...
NO WORRIES !
An aircraft can still glide like a paper plane for at least 6 nautical miles for every 5000 feet.
So during cruising phase which is mostly at 35000 feet, an aircraft can still glide for around 42 miles without power. (Not including head wind nor tail wind)
Aircraft have a harder time flying during hot day. Just like what the car does on the road...
Although there are a few NO SMOKING sign on the aircraft but ashtrays can still be found in the lavatories. Why? The reason is because if people do decide to smoke illegally inside, they want them to have at least a place other than the trash can to throw the butt. On-board fire is no joke!
Pilots have the tendency to fly slower than expected in order to make more money and the only time that they do fly faster is when an air traffic controller instructed them to.
TOP SECRET:
If the plane is being hijacked, after the pilot lands the aircraft, they will leave the wing flaps up which will slow the aircraft down and this will signal the air traffic controller that there is something happened in the aircraft.
When a plane is landing at night, they dim the interior lights just in case you need to evacuate upon landing, and since your eyes are already adjusted to the darkness, you will be able to see better once outside the plane.
The aircraft lavatories are able to unlock from the outside by just using a pen or even a coin. There is usually a lock mechanism concealed behind the no smoking badge on the door. Just lift the flap up and slide the bolt to unlock it.
In the cockpit, there are always at least 2 pilots at a time flying the aircraft. Both pilots are served different meals and cannot share the food just in case of food poisoning.
If you ever drink any water on the aircraft that did not come from a bottle, well congratulation! The reason being the ports to purge lavatory shit and refill the aircraft with portable water are within feet from each other and sometimes serviced all at once by the same person. So...
Landings to a lot of pilots are nothing more than a controlled crashes.
Accident occurs the most during take-off and landing...
Turning off the electronics on a plane is totally bullshit. It won't really affect the aircraft nor bring the whole aircraft down. What it does is that it is freaking annoying to the pilots due to the interference sound.
All of the goodies that are sold on the aircraft can be purchased on the internet for WAY less money.
Those clean blankets and pillows? Yes those are just being refolded and stuffed back in the bins between the flights, everyone will thought its new. Oh, even the headphones that come wrapped up nicely aren't new.
If during a flight, when all engines fail...
NO WORRIES !
An aircraft can still glide like a paper plane for at least 6 nautical miles for every 5000 feet.
So during cruising phase which is mostly at 35000 feet, an aircraft can still glide for around 42 miles without power. (Not including head wind nor tail wind)
Aircraft have a harder time flying during hot day. Just like what the car does on the road...
Although there are a few NO SMOKING sign on the aircraft but ashtrays can still be found in the lavatories. Why? The reason is because if people do decide to smoke illegally inside, they want them to have at least a place other than the trash can to throw the butt. On-board fire is no joke!
Pilots have the tendency to fly slower than expected in order to make more money and the only time that they do fly faster is when an air traffic controller instructed them to.
TOP SECRET:
If the plane is being hijacked, after the pilot lands the aircraft, they will leave the wing flaps up which will slow the aircraft down and this will signal the air traffic controller that there is something happened in the aircraft.
Tuesday, March 18, 2014
Air traffic controller
Air traffic controller is not an easy job and sometimes I think that it have an even larger responsibilities than a pilot.
They have the task of ensuring safe operations of the commercial and private aircraft.
They are the pilot's eye to see if there is any aircraft near to them, or crossing their path.
They must coordinate the movements of thousands of aircraft, keep them at safe distances from each other, direct them take-off and landing from airports, direct them around bad weather and ensure that traffic flows smoothly with minimal delays.
They always work under high pressure and operate in a dynamic working environment.
Especially during peak hours, where aircraft lands and take off simultaneously in every 2 - 3 minutes.
They have the task of ensuring safe operations of the commercial and private aircraft.
They are the pilot's eye to see if there is any aircraft near to them, or crossing their path.
They must coordinate the movements of thousands of aircraft, keep them at safe distances from each other, direct them take-off and landing from airports, direct them around bad weather and ensure that traffic flows smoothly with minimal delays.
They always work under high pressure and operate in a dynamic working environment.
Especially during peak hours, where aircraft lands and take off simultaneously in every 2 - 3 minutes.
One wrong move, just ONE will cause a serious disaster.
So who's up for the job?
Monday, March 17, 2014
Apathy
"Why am I doing this?"
This is a question that I find becoming more and more important to ask as we become older.
As times goes on, we naturally become more attached and committed to things around us.
More organised and more responsibilities.
It's easy to let things naturally fall out due to laziness or forgetfulness, but it's the hardest to make the conscious decision to let things go.
It is very easy to be suddenly caught up in doing things that we begin to forget why we are doing these things to start with.
Maybe we are doing these things because we love them so much?
Maybe because it would make us happier?
Maybe we are doing things out of some necessary obligation?
But more likely, maybe we are doing these things because we haven't thought about why we really are doing them. Though we may have obligations that we cannot avoid and friends that we seem to be unfortunately chained to but we are the only people who can directly alter the course of our fate and emotional stability.
It's far too easy to fall into the trap of life without stepping back to realize that maybe you are only as unhappy as you have made yourself to be. Maybe you are only unhappy because you do all these things that you hate.
In which case, Quit. Leave. Stop. Because you are only doing this in apathy and this is the only thing between you and your happiness.
Live and lets live...
This is a question that I find becoming more and more important to ask as we become older.
As times goes on, we naturally become more attached and committed to things around us.
More organised and more responsibilities.
It's easy to let things naturally fall out due to laziness or forgetfulness, but it's the hardest to make the conscious decision to let things go.
It is very easy to be suddenly caught up in doing things that we begin to forget why we are doing these things to start with.
Maybe we are doing these things because we love them so much?
Maybe because it would make us happier?
Maybe we are doing things out of some necessary obligation?
But more likely, maybe we are doing these things because we haven't thought about why we really are doing them. Though we may have obligations that we cannot avoid and friends that we seem to be unfortunately chained to but we are the only people who can directly alter the course of our fate and emotional stability.
It's far too easy to fall into the trap of life without stepping back to realize that maybe you are only as unhappy as you have made yourself to be. Maybe you are only unhappy because you do all these things that you hate.
In which case, Quit. Leave. Stop. Because you are only doing this in apathy and this is the only thing between you and your happiness.
Live and lets live...
Sunday, March 16, 2014
Relationship ready or not?
I often think that people who end up falling in love in just a very short period are usually people with their lust associated with a relationship and with such relief of not being "FOREVER ALONE".
Of course, every human love the idea of being able to say or hear things like "I MISS YOU" or "I LOVE YOU" to/from someone, but I think a lot of us don't really understand that the real foundation of a relationship is actually not that glamorous, right?
We are all searching for someone whose demons play well with ours.
When people simply just rush to be with that someone, he/she often neglect to actually be with them.
What the hell is a relationship if you are not ready to commit and give yourself?
I don't think that, one needs to completely discard their sense of autonomy in a relationship.
After all, the people we choose to date should complement us, not complete us.
However, I do think that we are required to take the responsibility and also to remember that we are holding on to someone else's hearts in our hands.
So, don't play with it and don't rush it !
We may not be able to solve our significant other's problems, but at least what we can do is to try to be fully there.
Although at the end of the day, giving it all doesn't really have the power of fixing everything.
But, I am sure that it do have the power of letting him/her know that someone will always try to be there when things aren't okay.
Anybody agree with me? Any? Any?
Of course, every human love the idea of being able to say or hear things like "I MISS YOU" or "I LOVE YOU" to/from someone, but I think a lot of us don't really understand that the real foundation of a relationship is actually not that glamorous, right?
We are all searching for someone whose demons play well with ours.
When people simply just rush to be with that someone, he/she often neglect to actually be with them.
What the hell is a relationship if you are not ready to commit and give yourself?
I don't think that, one needs to completely discard their sense of autonomy in a relationship.
After all, the people we choose to date should complement us, not complete us.
However, I do think that we are required to take the responsibility and also to remember that we are holding on to someone else's hearts in our hands.
So, don't play with it and don't rush it !
We may not be able to solve our significant other's problems, but at least what we can do is to try to be fully there.
Although at the end of the day, giving it all doesn't really have the power of fixing everything.
But, I am sure that it do have the power of letting him/her know that someone will always try to be there when things aren't okay.
Anybody agree with me? Any? Any?
Saturday, March 15, 2014
Make the most of today
Try imagine that there is an awesome bank in Singapore that credits your account each morning with a total of S$86,400/-
However, that balance doesn't carry over from day to day, meaning that after 12 AM, the left over money will not be carry over to the next day account balance.
Every evening, the bank will deletes whatever part of the balance that you failed to used.
What would you do?
Draw out every cents? OF COURSE! That's human nature...
Now convert this bank theory to time...
Every start of the day, we are being credited a total of 86,400 seconds.
Every night, it writes off as a lost, whatever of this that we failed to invest to a good purpose will be gone.
It carries over no balance.
It allows no over draft.
Each day, it opens up a new account for us.
Each night, it burns the remains of the day.
If we fail to use the day's deposits, the loss is ours.
There is no drawing against "TOMORROW".
We must live in the present on today's deposits.
The clock is running, make the most of today or should I say, make the most of everyday.
Make the most of the time we have, because it's something that we can never get it back...
Oh my god, I am so profound... I am just kidding :)
However, that balance doesn't carry over from day to day, meaning that after 12 AM, the left over money will not be carry over to the next day account balance.
Every evening, the bank will deletes whatever part of the balance that you failed to used.
What would you do?
Draw out every cents? OF COURSE! That's human nature...
Now convert this bank theory to time...
Every start of the day, we are being credited a total of 86,400 seconds.
Every night, it writes off as a lost, whatever of this that we failed to invest to a good purpose will be gone.
It carries over no balance.
It allows no over draft.
Each day, it opens up a new account for us.
Each night, it burns the remains of the day.
If we fail to use the day's deposits, the loss is ours.
There is no drawing against "TOMORROW".
We must live in the present on today's deposits.
The clock is running, make the most of today or should I say, make the most of everyday.
Make the most of the time we have, because it's something that we can never get it back...
Oh my god, I am so profound... I am just kidding :)
Friday, March 14, 2014
Perspectives
Often, I think that everyone is better than me...
But I notice that I am only seeing the image that they portray to others.
Everyone has their own fears and weakness, after all we are all just human isn't it?
I need to stop comparing myself to others, because I will always come up short.
Just be myself, and the people who accept me for who I am will be the ones that are worth keeping around.
Those who can't accept me for who I am, probably aren't worth my time and energy too.
P/s: You have to know which is the "RIGHT WAY" before you can move on...
And that freaking haze along with that bloody blazing sun which caused a bush fires at Bukit Panjang near Segar Road... LAST WARNING! Hope everyone are safe and okay ~
There isn't always necessarily just one truth, the truth can mean so many different things from different perspectives.
There's always another side to a story...
The next time that I ever say that I am busy, it's just an excuse.
Because I do know well that if I truly prioritize something, I will make time for it.
Be it a relationships, friendships or something else, I will always have time for anything as long as I make time for it.
But I notice that I am only seeing the image that they portray to others.
Everyone has their own fears and weakness, after all we are all just human isn't it?
I need to stop comparing myself to others, because I will always come up short.
Just be myself, and the people who accept me for who I am will be the ones that are worth keeping around.
Those who can't accept me for who I am, probably aren't worth my time and energy too.
P/s: You have to know which is the "RIGHT WAY" before you can move on...
And that freaking haze along with that bloody blazing sun which caused a bush fires at Bukit Panjang near Segar Road... LAST WARNING! Hope everyone are safe and okay ~
There isn't always necessarily just one truth, the truth can mean so many different things from different perspectives.
There's always another side to a story...
The next time that I ever say that I am busy, it's just an excuse.
Because I do know well that if I truly prioritize something, I will make time for it.
Be it a relationships, friendships or something else, I will always have time for anything as long as I make time for it.
Thursday, March 13, 2014
The Aims
There’s no hiding the fact that we live in a society that glorifies two words: “busy”and “now.”
When, “How are you?” it seems that many of us have traded “Good, how are you?” for “Ugh, SO busy.”
Whether it’s finals season or seizing an exciting new opportunity, it’s easy to employ the “I’m so busy” crutch.
As I make my way through the 20s, I am doing all I can to figure it out what I want in life. It can be hectic. I think that I might have all the answers, and while that might sometimes be the case, I probably don’t. Wisdom comes with time I guess?
When, “How are you?” it seems that many of us have traded “Good, how are you?” for “Ugh, SO busy.”
Whether it’s finals season or seizing an exciting new opportunity, it’s easy to employ the “I’m so busy” crutch.
As I make my way through the 20s, I am doing all I can to figure it out what I want in life. It can be hectic. I think that I might have all the answers, and while that might sometimes be the case, I probably don’t. Wisdom comes with time I guess?
Wednesday, March 12, 2014
Nothing are meant to last forever
When people come into my life, it is hard to dissociate from the once shared moments and move on.
And often, I am forced to leave behind those whom my lives once revolved around with.
But, sometimes people do change, therefore there's a need for me to move on and simply grow.
As days turn into months and months into years, it may still be difficult for me to understand how to detach myself from the people from my past and to accept the reality that they will no longer be part of my present.
It is a difficult concept to grasp the people whom I consider to be staples in my lives who may not be here for me tomorrow. But I had learn to accept the idea that whether it's a lover, a coworker or a friend, his or her place in my lives may not always be meant to last forever.
From this acceptance, I have a deep appreciation for the experiences that I share with people that are still in my lives. Though it may be something sad to consider the end of a relationship, but it encourage me to appreciate the people in my life for the sheer reason that they still exist in my present.
People come and go but memories last forever. :)
These lessons people taught me and the hardships they help me navigate will never be forgotten.
These memories will become something permanent as part of me, and I will continue to shape myself.
Just because a relationship does not last does not mean that it is insignificant in any way.
It is not the amount of time these relationships last that is important, but instead, I think it is the ability to remember them that is important. Anybody agree with me? :)
And often, I am forced to leave behind those whom my lives once revolved around with.
But, sometimes people do change, therefore there's a need for me to move on and simply grow.
As days turn into months and months into years, it may still be difficult for me to understand how to detach myself from the people from my past and to accept the reality that they will no longer be part of my present.
It is a difficult concept to grasp the people whom I consider to be staples in my lives who may not be here for me tomorrow. But I had learn to accept the idea that whether it's a lover, a coworker or a friend, his or her place in my lives may not always be meant to last forever.
From this acceptance, I have a deep appreciation for the experiences that I share with people that are still in my lives. Though it may be something sad to consider the end of a relationship, but it encourage me to appreciate the people in my life for the sheer reason that they still exist in my present.
People come and go but memories last forever. :)
These lessons people taught me and the hardships they help me navigate will never be forgotten.
These memories will become something permanent as part of me, and I will continue to shape myself.
Just because a relationship does not last does not mean that it is insignificant in any way.
It is not the amount of time these relationships last that is important, but instead, I think it is the ability to remember them that is important. Anybody agree with me? :)
Tuesday, March 11, 2014
Key Ingredients
When it's hard to make up your mind, try not to look too far ahead.
Relax and just think about tomorrow.
Think about what you want to do tomorrow.
That will give you a different answer.
Sometimes, what moves people is not honesty but the situation.
And by finding an excuse can be really helpful when you can't bring up the courage.
People often look for something, follow by finding something else, and realize that what they have found is actually more suited to their needs than what they thought they were looking for.
To me, risk-taking, trust and serendipity are the main key ingredients of joy.
Without risk, nothing new ever happens.
Without trust, fear creeps in.
Without serendipity, there are no surprises.
Just another random thoughts by a half-grown man that trying to stand like a man. :)
Relax and just think about tomorrow.
Think about what you want to do tomorrow.
That will give you a different answer.
Sometimes, what moves people is not honesty but the situation.
And by finding an excuse can be really helpful when you can't bring up the courage.
People often look for something, follow by finding something else, and realize that what they have found is actually more suited to their needs than what they thought they were looking for.
To me, risk-taking, trust and serendipity are the main key ingredients of joy.
Without risk, nothing new ever happens.
Without trust, fear creeps in.
Without serendipity, there are no surprises.
Just another random thoughts by a half-grown man that trying to stand like a man. :)
Mentality
My friend just finish a date with a girl, and as usual he ends up the one paying for everything again.
I know paying for a girl or at least for the first few dates are some sort of chivalry or generous act to a lot of people, but this should never be something that a guy must do for every single outing/date.
Some women basically just take this as something that a guy should do, it's like saying "Hey, you should feel honor that I am having dinner with you, and therefore you are obligated to pay for me", isn't this very wrong?
I view such women as someone who is very dependent on her partner, who expects and demands for more than what a guy can offer, and who will whine about every single thing.
If she feels that she is entitled to all that he can offer, it is very likely that she won't appreciate him nor thank him for whatever he provide or give her in the future.
I am not saying all girl/women are like that, but from what I have been seeing and hearing, there is quite a significant figure of girl/women who have such mindset, and I actually do have some female friends that are exactly like this.
As usual, to each its own...
Each individual has a right to his/her own preference and belief.
Therefore, I can't say that I am 100% right. It's just my 2 cents of opinion :)
I know paying for a girl or at least for the first few dates are some sort of chivalry or generous act to a lot of people, but this should never be something that a guy must do for every single outing/date.
Some women basically just take this as something that a guy should do, it's like saying "Hey, you should feel honor that I am having dinner with you, and therefore you are obligated to pay for me", isn't this very wrong?
I view such women as someone who is very dependent on her partner, who expects and demands for more than what a guy can offer, and who will whine about every single thing.
If she feels that she is entitled to all that he can offer, it is very likely that she won't appreciate him nor thank him for whatever he provide or give her in the future.
I am not saying all girl/women are like that, but from what I have been seeing and hearing, there is quite a significant figure of girl/women who have such mindset, and I actually do have some female friends that are exactly like this.
As usual, to each its own...
Each individual has a right to his/her own preference and belief.
Therefore, I can't say that I am 100% right. It's just my 2 cents of opinion :)
Monday, March 10, 2014
A problem?
Often, I find that I am my own worst enemy...
I guess happiness is really dependent on one self perspective, right?
When I think something is a problem, my thoughts and emotions tend to become negative too.
But if I think from another point of view in which it's something that I can learn from, then suddenly, it's no longer a problem anymore.
In conclusion, it's only a problem if I think it's a problem, as simple as that. :)
I need to learn how to get out of my own way because I am always a "victim" of my own thoughts, words and actions.
No one "does" something to me and I am actually the creator of my very own experience.
I tend to think that by changing my own circumstances, I will be able to change myself.
But I think I should do it backwards instead, I will change myself first before my circumstances will change.
If I want things to change, I will need to start with changing myself.
If I don't like something, I will change it.
If I can't change it, I will change my own attitude.
I guess happiness is really dependent on one self perspective, right?
When I think something is a problem, my thoughts and emotions tend to become negative too.
But if I think from another point of view in which it's something that I can learn from, then suddenly, it's no longer a problem anymore.
In conclusion, it's only a problem if I think it's a problem, as simple as that. :)
I need to learn how to get out of my own way because I am always a "victim" of my own thoughts, words and actions.
No one "does" something to me and I am actually the creator of my very own experience.
I tend to think that by changing my own circumstances, I will be able to change myself.
But I think I should do it backwards instead, I will change myself first before my circumstances will change.
If I want things to change, I will need to start with changing myself.
If I don't like something, I will change it.
If I can't change it, I will change my own attitude.
Sunday, March 9, 2014
Intentions are never pure
If any of us get anything out of life, let it be this,
"Everyone you interact with, anyone that you have a conversation with, anyone and everyone in your life, wants something from you."
If anyone tells you otherwise, then that person is lying, if you believe otherwise, then you are lying to yourself.
A better way to understand this is to ask yourself that,
"Have you, or anyone you know, ever interacted with another person solely for that person's benefit and no benefit of your own. whatsoever?"
The answer is likely, absolutely not. Even when we get into the topic of philanthropy, many will argue that helping others is a partly, if not wholly, done in order to make ourselves feel better about ourselves.
Whenever we meet someone new, it is almost guaranteed that he/she wants something from you, or wants to use you as a means to an end. Just like how I got to know someone quite a while ago and manage to learn quite a lot just from that ONE person. It's not really a bad thing.
Human beings are built to protect and look out for themselves first and foremost. This legendary egocentricity is built into our DNA as a defense and survival mechanism that cannot be changed. How can nature be so contradictory? Quite honestly, I am not sure.
"Everyone you interact with, anyone that you have a conversation with, anyone and everyone in your life, wants something from you."
If anyone tells you otherwise, then that person is lying, if you believe otherwise, then you are lying to yourself.
A better way to understand this is to ask yourself that,
"Have you, or anyone you know, ever interacted with another person solely for that person's benefit and no benefit of your own. whatsoever?"
The answer is likely, absolutely not. Even when we get into the topic of philanthropy, many will argue that helping others is a partly, if not wholly, done in order to make ourselves feel better about ourselves.
Whenever we meet someone new, it is almost guaranteed that he/she wants something from you, or wants to use you as a means to an end. Just like how I got to know someone quite a while ago and manage to learn quite a lot just from that ONE person. It's not really a bad thing.
Human beings are built to protect and look out for themselves first and foremost. This legendary egocentricity is built into our DNA as a defense and survival mechanism that cannot be changed. How can nature be so contradictory? Quite honestly, I am not sure.
Saturday, March 8, 2014
Cherish what you have now
The deeply saddened news had confirmed that the Malaysia Airline flight 370 which carrying a total of 227 passengers and 12 flight crew had crashed in the South China Sea.
My deepest condolences to the people on-board MH370 and to those who have lost their loved ones...
The truth is no one will know what is going to happen tomorrow or in the near future. Life is a crazy ride, and nothing is guaranteed. It is very important to keep on communicating with the loved ones as much as possible, enjoy, cherish moments with people whom are part of your lives because we will never know, the next day those moments to cherish with that person will no longer be. Life has so many surprises, twists, turns, obstacles, ups and downs.
My deepest condolences to the people on-board MH370 and to those who have lost their loved ones...
The truth is no one will know what is going to happen tomorrow or in the near future. Life is a crazy ride, and nothing is guaranteed. It is very important to keep on communicating with the loved ones as much as possible, enjoy, cherish moments with people whom are part of your lives because we will never know, the next day those moments to cherish with that person will no longer be. Life has so many surprises, twists, turns, obstacles, ups and downs.
Judgmental
Recently, a friend of mine divulged to me regarding a decision she had made which she thinks that it went against some of her own core values.
Well, I listened and asked her some questions while she was telling me about it.
"Do you think this decision is helping you to get closer to what you want or further away from it?"
To that, she reacted, "Don't judge me! I'm comfortable in my decision and know what I'm doing."
I am not judging you, and even if I was, if you are really comfortable with what you are doing, my judgement won't matter to you. That will be my problem, not yours.
Maybe I was judging her or maybe I wasn't.
But what I thought wasn't really the main issue here, isn't it?
She knew whether she wanted to admit it or not, that she was making a decision that wasn't quite right. Before even telling me, she was already defensive because she was already judging herself...
I know for myself, the times that I actually concerned of people judging is because I knew that I had made a decision that wasn't serving me, but I just didn't have the discipline or courage to be honest about it.
It's easy to point the finger and blame someone as being "judgmental" just to disguise the fact that really, we're just judging ourselves. It's human natural...
If you were truly confident with the decisions that you are making, you won't let such judgement of others to concern you. So the next time you accuse someone of judging you, take a moment and ask yourself "Who's really the one judging you?" If you felt judged, it may be a signal for you to do a gut check with yourself and ask if your decision is out of line with your values and integrity.
Well, I listened and asked her some questions while she was telling me about it.
"Do you think this decision is helping you to get closer to what you want or further away from it?"
To that, she reacted, "Don't judge me! I'm comfortable in my decision and know what I'm doing."
I am not judging you, and even if I was, if you are really comfortable with what you are doing, my judgement won't matter to you. That will be my problem, not yours.
Maybe I was judging her or maybe I wasn't.
But what I thought wasn't really the main issue here, isn't it?
She knew whether she wanted to admit it or not, that she was making a decision that wasn't quite right. Before even telling me, she was already defensive because she was already judging herself...
I know for myself, the times that I actually concerned of people judging is because I knew that I had made a decision that wasn't serving me, but I just didn't have the discipline or courage to be honest about it.
It's easy to point the finger and blame someone as being "judgmental" just to disguise the fact that really, we're just judging ourselves. It's human natural...
If you were truly confident with the decisions that you are making, you won't let such judgement of others to concern you. So the next time you accuse someone of judging you, take a moment and ask yourself "Who's really the one judging you?" If you felt judged, it may be a signal for you to do a gut check with yourself and ask if your decision is out of line with your values and integrity.
Friday, March 7, 2014
Witness an accident
Today while I was riding back home from school.
I came across a young boy who is cycling on the road.
He sway from left to right without even checking his blind spot.
He cycle with his hand free from the handle bar. It's cool...
As I was approaching from behind, I leave a wide distance between us just in case anything happened.
And indeed, "shits' happened...
While at the traffic junction, the car in front of him move forward into the turning-right pocket and stopped.
That young boy who is either dreaming or cannot brake in time, crash right into the rear of the car.
He flew out from his bicycle with his head/face hitting the car.
He then fall onto the ground, climb up and attempt to walk away (crippling) while pushing his bicycle to the side. That driver then drove to the side and check what had happened.
At that point of time, I admit that I actually think that he deserves it.
I know that I shouldn't say this, but he himself cycling on the main road with his hand free from the handle bar was already a hazardous to other road user.
Why should we pity someone that trying to act cool or disregard other people safety?
Am I suppose to pity those driver that drink-driving or am I suppose to pity those innocent driver/families that get into an unfortunate accident because of a drink-driving driver? It's the same theory.
Other than that, things are getting back to normal and improving.
I think that when things are good right now, enjoy it, because it won't last forever.
If things are bad, don't worry about it, because it won't last forever either.
Just because life isn't easy at the moment, doesn't mean that we can't laugh.
Just because something is bothering us, doesn't mean we can't smile.
Every moment gives us a new beginning and a new ending.
We all get a second chance, every second.
So we just have to take it and make the best of it! Don't you guys agree? :)
I came across a young boy who is cycling on the road.
He sway from left to right without even checking his blind spot.
He cycle with his hand free from the handle bar. It's cool...
As I was approaching from behind, I leave a wide distance between us just in case anything happened.
And indeed, "shits' happened...
While at the traffic junction, the car in front of him move forward into the turning-right pocket and stopped.
That young boy who is either dreaming or cannot brake in time, crash right into the rear of the car.
He flew out from his bicycle with his head/face hitting the car.
He then fall onto the ground, climb up and attempt to walk away (crippling) while pushing his bicycle to the side. That driver then drove to the side and check what had happened.
At that point of time, I admit that I actually think that he deserves it.
I know that I shouldn't say this, but he himself cycling on the main road with his hand free from the handle bar was already a hazardous to other road user.
Why should we pity someone that trying to act cool or disregard other people safety?
Am I suppose to pity those driver that drink-driving or am I suppose to pity those innocent driver/families that get into an unfortunate accident because of a drink-driving driver? It's the same theory.
Other than that, things are getting back to normal and improving.
I think that when things are good right now, enjoy it, because it won't last forever.
If things are bad, don't worry about it, because it won't last forever either.
Just because life isn't easy at the moment, doesn't mean that we can't laugh.
Just because something is bothering us, doesn't mean we can't smile.
Every moment gives us a new beginning and a new ending.
We all get a second chance, every second.
So we just have to take it and make the best of it! Don't you guys agree? :)
In love with the idea of someone
Not long ago, I just enlighten someone regarding how she's in love with the idea of that someone rather than in love with that someone.
The conversation that get past midnight always do get a bit serious, isn't it?
And to add on to the mood, the conversation happened at upper seletar reservoir.
Eventually the conversation ended at Fajar Mac because we are simply too cold and tired.
She's never single for too long...
She don’t take the necessarily time to heal after a failed relationship.
She just jump from one to the next. (Including dating)
I’m not talking about a rebound or two, I’m talking about those who are completely incapable of being single for any extended period of time.
She knows that she don’t really love them, but she is still holding on to the love they give. She always convincing herself that she is in love when she know that what she is really in love with is a lot more superficial, but a lot harder to let go of at the same time.
She have a propensity to be unfaithful...
She can’t decide between two people, and she tend to weigh her options based on how one makes her feel better as opposed to the other. She is always out seeking someone better and another one better than the one before them.
She always fantasize that someone “better” will come along. She only seeks the traits of someone as opposed to the reality of someone. She is always looking for more.
There's more to it, but its going to make the whole entry look so long and bore.
Shall stop here :)
But at least she agreed to my point and thinks that it's time for her to figure out her life.
I did not manipluate her mind!
All these are based on what I see and experienced for the past few years, I might be wrong. :/
The conversation that get past midnight always do get a bit serious, isn't it?
And to add on to the mood, the conversation happened at upper seletar reservoir.
Eventually the conversation ended at Fajar Mac because we are simply too cold and tired.
She's never single for too long...
She don’t take the necessarily time to heal after a failed relationship.
She just jump from one to the next. (Including dating)
I’m not talking about a rebound or two, I’m talking about those who are completely incapable of being single for any extended period of time.
She knows that she don’t really love them, but she is still holding on to the love they give. She always convincing herself that she is in love when she know that what she is really in love with is a lot more superficial, but a lot harder to let go of at the same time.
She have a propensity to be unfaithful...
She can’t decide between two people, and she tend to weigh her options based on how one makes her feel better as opposed to the other. She is always out seeking someone better and another one better than the one before them.
She always fantasize that someone “better” will come along. She only seeks the traits of someone as opposed to the reality of someone. She is always looking for more.
There's more to it, but its going to make the whole entry look so long and bore.
Shall stop here :)
But at least she agreed to my point and thinks that it's time for her to figure out her life.
I did not manipluate her mind!
All these are based on what I see and experienced for the past few years, I might be wrong. :/
Thursday, March 6, 2014
Let it all go
Just as expected, that person is suspecting it.
Stop the questioning and prompting...
Why bother over it? You are like a joke now.
If your head or heart hurts now, the pain will grows deeper.
If you feel that something gets tangled in your heart.
That's most likely sadness. Deal with it... live and let live.
Not everything is going to be the way you want it to.
I learned not to live being conscious of other people that I can't be bothered with.
Since I am going to be 26 this year, there are a total of 26 things that I would like to let it go before my next birthday.
1) Let go of anything that doesn't make me better or happier person.
2) Let go of other peoples' burdens.
3) Let go of what other people think about me.
4) Let go of that pursuit of an unrealistic body image.
5) Let go of avoiding my problems.
6) Let go of regret.
7) Let go of lazy attitudes and unproductive days.
8) Let go of my insecurities.
9) Let go of crying about life's inherent unfairness.
10) Let go of the belief that everything arrives in its own time.
11) Let go of my penchant for procrastination.
12) Let go of the dwelling on my past mistakes.
13) Let go of stress.
14) Let go of trying to change the people.
15) Let go of the worries about money.
16) Let go of trying to become a different type of person.
17) Let go of the obsession over my own schedule.
18) Let go of the obsession with "Stuff".
19) Let go of my own fear of speaking my mind.
20) Let go of my anger.
21) Let go of excuses.
22) Let go of my jealousy towards the people in my life.
23) Let go of my worries about the future.
24) Let go of the belief that it's too late to start over.
25) Let go of the hatred.
26) Let go of the grudges.
Talk is cheap, but eventually with the given time, I will let all these go...
Stop the questioning and prompting...
Why bother over it? You are like a joke now.
If your head or heart hurts now, the pain will grows deeper.
If you feel that something gets tangled in your heart.
That's most likely sadness. Deal with it... live and let live.
Not everything is going to be the way you want it to.
I learned not to live being conscious of other people that I can't be bothered with.
Since I am going to be 26 this year, there are a total of 26 things that I would like to let it go before my next birthday.
1) Let go of anything that doesn't make me better or happier person.
2) Let go of other peoples' burdens.
3) Let go of what other people think about me.
4) Let go of that pursuit of an unrealistic body image.
5) Let go of avoiding my problems.
6) Let go of regret.
7) Let go of lazy attitudes and unproductive days.
8) Let go of my insecurities.
9) Let go of crying about life's inherent unfairness.
10) Let go of the belief that everything arrives in its own time.
11) Let go of my penchant for procrastination.
12) Let go of the dwelling on my past mistakes.
13) Let go of stress.
14) Let go of trying to change the people.
15) Let go of the worries about money.
16) Let go of trying to become a different type of person.
17) Let go of the obsession over my own schedule.
18) Let go of the obsession with "Stuff".
19) Let go of my own fear of speaking my mind.
20) Let go of my anger.
21) Let go of excuses.
22) Let go of my jealousy towards the people in my life.
23) Let go of my worries about the future.
24) Let go of the belief that it's too late to start over.
25) Let go of the hatred.
26) Let go of the grudges.
Talk is cheap, but eventually with the given time, I will let all these go...
Wednesday, March 5, 2014
Dating
Few years back...
To me...
Dating is just like a game with strange rules.
It's like a game in which you take the pain someone caused you and hand it off to someone else.
It's a game in which you get back the pain you have caused from someone else.
There's a day where I don't feel anything after losing that game.
And there's a day when I become a bloody mess even after winning that game.
It's not like I become a winner by being zealous.
It's a strange game.
At first glance, dating seems like a game between two players.
But there is always a strange "Deja Vu" between this and the previous relationship.
What about now? I don't know either...
But in this world, there's no such thing as a secure dating. There's a kind of dating which may feel safe, but that's only because we think that we like that person less than he/she likes us. A kind of ignorance.
Truth be told, happiness is not the absence of problems, but the ability to deal with them. Try imagine all the wondrous things that our mind might embrace if it weren't wrapped so tightly around our struggles.
I guess we will need to look at what we currently have, instead of what we have lost. Because it's not what the world takes away from us that counts but it's what we do with what we have left.
Because tomorrow I will get back up
What helps to stay motivated when people are struggling? What's something positive that people try to keep in mind when everything seems to be going wrong?
The floor is MINE ~
Don't let a hard lesson harden the heart...
Life's best lessons are often learned at the worst times and from the worst mistakes.
What happened recently is not yet the worst...
There will be times when it seems like everything that could possibly go wrong is going wrong.
I might feel like I will be stuck in this rut forever, but I won't.
When I feel like quitting, I will remember that sometimes things have to go very wrong before they can be right. Sometimes, I have to go through the worst, to arrive at my best. :)
Shall not stress over things that I cannot change. Live simply. Love generously. Speak truthfully. Work diligently. So that even if I ever fall short, I can keep going and keep growing.
The floor is MINE ~
Don't let a hard lesson harden the heart...
Life's best lessons are often learned at the worst times and from the worst mistakes.
What happened recently is not yet the worst...
There will be times when it seems like everything that could possibly go wrong is going wrong.
I might feel like I will be stuck in this rut forever, but I won't.
When I feel like quitting, I will remember that sometimes things have to go very wrong before they can be right. Sometimes, I have to go through the worst, to arrive at my best. :)
Shall not stress over things that I cannot change. Live simply. Love generously. Speak truthfully. Work diligently. So that even if I ever fall short, I can keep going and keep growing.
Tuesday, March 4, 2014
90 Days ~
Sometimes, life closes doors because it's time to move forward. And that's a good thing because we often won't move forward unless a circumstances force us to. When times are tough, remind yourself that no pain comes without a purpose. Move on from what hurt you, but never forget what it taught you. Just because you are struggling doesn't mean you are failing. Every great success requires some type of worthy struggle to get there. Good things take time. Stay patient and stay positive. Everything is going to come together, maybe not immediately, but eventually.
I might think that something is wrong maybe it is time to stop, but NO, it's time for me to move free and further. This journey will have to go down first before it comes up. And when it comes up, it's going to go so much higher than I have ever been.
I got 90 days to become that person that I wanted to be, to turn that dream into reality.
I got 90 days. It's not an easy path...
What am I running from that I don't need to?
What else can I overcome?
I will go after it and give it all I have, if I lose it, at least I tried...
"I FAILED" is ten times more of a man than someone that said "WHAT IF?".
Because "WHAT IF?" never went to the arena!
Remember that there are two kinds of pain, a pain that hurts us and a pain that changes us. When we roll with life, instead of resisting it, both kinds actually helped us to grow.
I might think that something is wrong maybe it is time to stop, but NO, it's time for me to move free and further. This journey will have to go down first before it comes up. And when it comes up, it's going to go so much higher than I have ever been.
I got 90 days to become that person that I wanted to be, to turn that dream into reality.
I got 90 days. It's not an easy path...
What am I running from that I don't need to?
What else can I overcome?
I will go after it and give it all I have, if I lose it, at least I tried...
"I FAILED" is ten times more of a man than someone that said "WHAT IF?".
Because "WHAT IF?" never went to the arena!
Remember that there are two kinds of pain, a pain that hurts us and a pain that changes us. When we roll with life, instead of resisting it, both kinds actually helped us to grow.
Monday, March 3, 2014
The Crashed Aircraft
Today, the aircraft was shot in the engines by a ground-to-air missile.
No one was aware of that...
No one is prepared for it...
The engines stopped functioning...
Without any more thrust, the aircraft start gliding like a paper plane towards the ground, but soon, the control-surface failed, the wings broke up due to structural damage and the cockpit instruments are flooded with warning messages. The aircraft then bank towards the right and dive vertically down towards the ground. All flight crews and passengers was dead due to the high G-force impact.
There are no survivor, there are none...
The black boxes that contains the evidences and flight history of the last moment was gone due to the heavy impact. No records, no memories...
How did I know about it? Because I am the pilot. I caused this to happen...
My dangerous acts to get close were crossing the limit...
The warning sounds that rang from deep within my mind...
I definitely heard them... If I could have stopped, I would have stopped then...
To those victims, it's okay to get angry or even curse at me. Even if you do so later, you will feel more at ease. The time has really comes to bid farewell. Thanks for everything :)
I will never forget this day...
No one was aware of that...
No one is prepared for it...
The engines stopped functioning...
Without any more thrust, the aircraft start gliding like a paper plane towards the ground, but soon, the control-surface failed, the wings broke up due to structural damage and the cockpit instruments are flooded with warning messages. The aircraft then bank towards the right and dive vertically down towards the ground. All flight crews and passengers was dead due to the high G-force impact.
There are no survivor, there are none...
The black boxes that contains the evidences and flight history of the last moment was gone due to the heavy impact. No records, no memories...
How did I know about it? Because I am the pilot. I caused this to happen...
My dangerous acts to get close were crossing the limit...
The warning sounds that rang from deep within my mind...
I definitely heard them... If I could have stopped, I would have stopped then...
To those victims, it's okay to get angry or even curse at me. Even if you do so later, you will feel more at ease. The time has really comes to bid farewell. Thanks for everything :)
I will never forget this day...
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